How to say no to sex?
How to say no to sex when you are in a marriage is a question that a lot of women wonder about. After all, when you are married you have inevitably been forced into having sexual encounters with your husband. He may have said that he wasn’t ready for that sort of thing. So, how do you say “no” to sex when you are married?
But the issues of sexual intimacy are never delicate and need to be dealt with delicately. The story of the married couple who became distant due to lack of sexual activity tells just why: a husband gets mad at his wife for practically no reason at all. She has sex with other guys to please her husband, he thinks that it’s enjoyable and turns out that it’s not. He yells at her, she gets hurt feelings, and the whole thing is blown out of proportion. If you don’t know how to say no to sex without hurting your husband, then you should be learning that right now.
Here’s how to say no to sex without hurting him, if your husband is a real man who cares about you and isn’t just as insecure as a spoiled little brat princess. First, talk to him. Find out what’s bothering him. It could be that you’ve been taking on more responsibilities than he’s willing to fill, or perhaps he’s just not happy with the direction you’re taking. Whatever it is, tell your husband that you are concerned about the state of your love life and would like to take it slowly but considerately approach sexual matters. Let him know that you would like to avoid having sex unless there is an emergency.
If you haven’t already had sex, let your husband know that you’d like some alone time without him for the first couple of weeks. This will give you both time to see if the relationship can survive the pressure of constant sexual intimacy. If the answer is yes, then you’ve got yourself a much better idea of how to say no to sex without hurting him in the process.
If the answer is no, then that’s a pretty good sign that you need to get a bit more creative about how to say no to sex without hurting him in the process. You can let your husband know that you are comfortable and confident that you two can work things out. It might take some gentle persuasion, but in the end you will both be happier for it.
There are obviously more detailed ways of how to say no to sex without hurting your husband. But this gives you an idea of how to take care of yourself and of what to do if your husband wants some alone time. Be careful not to make it too drastic or he could snap back into being upset with you again. Just try and be considerate and helpful without getting him to snap just yet.
Why no sex before marriage?
A question that I’m hearing more lately in the forums I belong to, is “Why No Sex Before Marriage?” The reason is that the statistics surrounding married couples are startling. Over 50% of all marriages end in divorce. What do these statistics mean to you?
It means that most, if not all, married couples would be better off staying single. It also means that there has to be some problem with the spouse that makes them feel incapable of being in a committed relationship. I know many married guys who have had affairs, and they are even now married. Some of them had never been involved with another female before in their life. So how would these guys get with another woman?
As funny as it sounds, some married men have actually had affairs while they were still married! How on earth could this happen? There has got to be something about the woman that makes their partner so vulnerable, and makes them willing to experiment with having an affair. If this is the case, then there has got to be something else going on too – something that prevents them from sticking with their “special friend” when he/she is cheating.
Well, another thing that happens quite often is that one of the husbands gets “his own piece” and starts a new affair. Once again, there is a disconnect between the husband and wife. This is a big issue in a marriage because there are just no more chances left to rebuild. When a man has had sex with other women, he tends to lose his desire for marriage and begins to view marriage as a game instead of a life choice.
There is one very good reason for having sex before marriage. If you want to have a baby, and are hoping for children, then having sex during your time of fertility is very helpful. Having sex several times a week will increase your chances of having children. Of course, it would not work well if you are trying to conceive a boy because it will most likely end in a girl. Sex is an important part of any relationship, and it should never be neglected!
If you are thinking “no thanks”, you should not feel guilty. You are not the only one who is doing it. Statistics show that almost 50% of marriages in the United States would break up if the partners are not married. Do not let your happiness is driven by some statistics that do not have any solid foundation. Think of your future family and your happiness first!